爱而不得是一种非常细微、细腻的情感。它是一种远远地看着对方的那种幸福、爱慕之情；它是因无法企及而产生的无能无力之感；它是念念不忘，想要放弃，却又不忍放弃的内心纠缠；它如影相随，让你内心无比地煎熬、苦涩甚至抑郁。那么，英语中是否有能够表达此情此感的词语呢？
1.heart-wrenching
wrench原意为扳手，heart-wrenching指用扳手猛绞心脏的那种痛苦，可谓非常有画面感了。该词形容巨大的悲伤或悲痛，有时可以用heart-breaking代替。
I look through some more of the pages to read some heart-wrenching love poetry.
我多翻了几页，读到了一些令人心碎的诗句。
注：该词的情感不仅限于爱情。
如：I can only imagine the heart-wrenching pain of losing so many loved ones within such a short period.
The orphan’s heart-wrenching tale included being deserted by her parents and scorned by nearly everyone in her hometown.
从这两个例子可以看出，这种悲痛还可指失去亲人，或被人遗弃的痛苦等。
2.lovelorn
该词指因得不到对方的爱而产生的相思之苦，lorn形容被抛弃的孤独落寞之感。使用的语境有：暗恋他人，得不到对方回应的痛苦；或是本身就对爱情深感无助和无望。
It is the story of a lovelorn girl whose suicide provokes bitter recriminations.
3.pining
该词指对伴侣的苦苦思念。注意，此处不用于暗恋语境，常用于爱人因故不在身旁，远走他乡，见而不得；或爱人离世，阴阳两隔。
Six months after he left, she was still pining.
4.yearning
yearning来自古英语giernan，原意为eager。该词表达了对某人的强烈渴望，尤其是对分别的或逝去的爱人的渴望。虽与pining使用语境相似，但大家应该能感受到略微的不同。Pining更强调“为伊消得人憔悴”，yearning则包含一种更为温柔的、急迫的情感。
He looked at her with yearning.
A letter contains bitterness, taking away yearning and leaving loving thoughts behind.
注：该词的情感不仅限于爱情。也可指思念故人、故土；甚至你减肥了，特想吃零食都可以用。
The ocean lover felt an intense yearning for the beach, so she made a trip to the seashore.
The dieter is yearning for a big bowl of rice cream, but she refuses to give in to her cravings.
5.carry the torch for someone
英语中有许多表达暗恋的词汇，如unrequited/unanswered/one-sided love，此处的暗恋正如其文字所暗示的那样，形容一个人内心燃烧着爱情的火焰，不论对方是否回应，都一直坚持着这种爱恋，就像是独自一人手持着燃烧的火炬一样。该表达虽是求而不得，却并没有那么难过，小伙伴们写情书的时候注意语境哦。
John sends her love letters once a month and never hears back from her. He needs to quit carrying the torch for Jane.
注：该表达更常用于“为某种信念而战”，如自由信念啊，体育精神啊诸如此类的
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